Tips for Parenting a Child with ADHD

Let's be honest — parenting any child is tough, but parenting one with ADHD can feel especially challenging. You want to be patient and understanding, but their boundless energy and struggle will push every button you have. ADHD stands for attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. As a parent of a child with ADHD, it's important to understand what to look out for and how to help your child.

Children with ADHD often have trouble focusing or paying attention. They frequently daydream, get easily distracted, and struggle to finish tasks. Excessive physical movement and restlessness are hallmarks of the hyperactive-impulsive type of ADHD. These children seem "on the go" and often talk excessively. They may frequently interrupt or have trouble sitting still. Children with the hyperactive-impulsive type of ADHD often act without thinking. They have trouble delaying gratification and controlling impulses. They may blurt out inappropriate comments or have angry outbursts. 

As daunting as it may seem, there are strategies that can help you navigate ADHD with your child. Hopefully, with a little guidance, you can move from struggling to thriving.

Effective Parenting Strategies for Children With ADHD

Provide Structure and Consistency

Children with ADHD thrive on routine and structure. Set clear rules and schedules for homework, chores, and bedtime activities. Be consistent with consequences if those rules are broken. Having a predictable routine can help reduce stress and make their world feel more stable.

Give Clear, Concise Instructions

Keep your instructions simple and specific. Break down complex tasks into smaller steps. Make eye contact and speak calmly and clearly to ensure your child understands what you ask them to do. Provide reminders as needed. Be patient and avoid criticism. Praise your child when they follow instructions well.

Set Reasonable Limits

Set appropriate limits for your child based on their age and needs. Be flexible within those limits. Make sure any punishments fit the situation and that you follow through. Provide rewards and positive reinforcement when your child respects the limits. Find the right balance of limits versus flexibility for your child's abilities and circumstances.

Help Them Stay Organized

Help your child keep their environment organized. Set up specific places for them to store toys, clothes, school supplies, and other belongings. Provide labeled bins, drawers, and shelves for different categories of items. Develop a regular organizational routine together and make it a habit. An organized space will help reduce distractions and make it easier for your child to focus.

Give your Child Breaks

While structure is important, scheduling breaks to recharge is also helpful. For every 30 minutes of concentrated work or study, allow your child a short 5-10 minute break. Getting up and moving around can help renew their mental focus. You might also consider allowing slightly longer breaks for physical activity like jumping jacks or dancing to music.

Provide Encouragement and Rewards

Encourage and praise your child when you notice them concentrating and focusing well. Provide positive reinforcement through rewards to keep them motivated. Let your child pick out a small toy or treat when they complete an assignment on time or do well focusing in school. Verbal praise, high-fives, and hugs also work great for positive reinforcement.

Redirect Bad Behaviors

When your child acts out or misbehaves, immediately redirect them to an appropriate activity. For example, tell them to sit down if they start jumping on the couch. Provide an alternative outlet for their energy or restlessness, such as going outside to play or doing an engaging activity like a craft project or board game.

Stay Patient

We cannot overemphasize this. Parenting a child with ADHD can be frustrating and exhausting. Stay patient and remember that your child's behavior is related to their condition, not because they are intentionally misbehaving. 

ADHD is a real medical condition, and we invite you to contact us so we can help you find an effective treatment, including behavior therapy, medication, or a combination. Behavior therapy helps change behavior by modifying the environment. Medication can help improve focus and attention span while reducing hyperactivity and impulsivity. However, the right treatment will depend on your child's symptoms and needs. Give our office a call so we can help you learn more about child therapy and your child get on track.